Let me ask you something…
What do you do when you start getting bored of wearing the clothes in your wardrobe?
Or you don’t like the way your clothes look and feel on you anymore?
Or do you start to dread having to decide what to wear every morning?
If you’re like most women, you probably resort to believing you have nothing to wear, even when you’re staring at a wardrobe full of clothes. Then a little voice creeps in telling you, “The reason you don’t have anything to wear is because these clothes aren’t right – you need new ones!”
One of two things generally happens next. You either purge and make room for new clothes, or you might even skip this step entirely and go straight to the shops for inspiration. When this happens you BUY, BUY, BUY because the shop assistant said it looks good and it feels good buying new clothes.
Does this sound familiar?
This is what I call the Style Sabotage Cycle. You can find out more about this in my previous blog ‘Are You Sabotaging Your Style’.
Where do you find your style?
Believe me, I know buying new clothes makes you feel good. But how long does this newfound confidence and happy feeling last? Maybe a week, maybe a month or maybe 3-months. But sooner or later the amazing feeling you get when you first start wearing these new items slowly starts to fizzle out like a balloon slowly losing air.
Why?
Well, because finding a style you love doesn’t start with your clothes. Yep, you read that right, I’m a stylist telling you that it’s not about your clothes!
This is a broken strategy.
With this strategy, you’re never going to feel fully satisfied with your clothes. Because it’s a quick fix of short-lived happiness, when you come down from the high, you’ll feel you need another shopping boost. As a result, you end up in this vicious cycle of ‘I have nothing to wear but have a wardrobe full of clothes’.
If you truly want a style that sticks and feels good all the time, it needs to start with YOU.
What do I even mean by that?
It’s as simple as this – your style needs to align with who you are on the inside. Only then can the outside and inside marry up.
The Signature Five Style Framework
With my clients I work with my Signature Five Style Framework, which consists of three pillars: Style Identity, Style DNA and Your Signature Style. The combination of these three ingredients is what creates a lasting style that gives you confidence and empowers you but also embodies every aspect of you.
This is the beauty and power of clothes. When they’re aligned to who you are, they can uplift and support you every day, every time and in every way.
If you’re not feeling your wardrobe, it’s not because you don’t have a style or you’re not the right weight, height, or have the latest trends. It’s because your clothes most probably aren’t aligned with who you are and where you want to be.
Next time you’re feeling a little uninspired with your wardrobe, I want you to think about the first pillar: your Style Identity. This is the foundation of creating a style that reflects you.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- Who are YOU as a person?
- How do you want to show up?
- What are your goals and vision for your life?
- What do you want?
- How can you be the CEO of your life and business/career?
Evolving your style doesn’t start with your clothes… it starts with YOU!
Putting YOU front and centre
You may have heard the saying, “don’t dress for the job you have, dress for the job you want.” But next time you’re stuck on what to wear, I want you to think about how you want to turn up in the world and what kind of life you want. This will help with getting clear on your style identity.
But perhaps you’ve never really thought about the life you want and how you want to feel. Using your feelings to visualise what you want is a powerful tool for shifting your mindset.
So, let’s finish up with a little exercise to get your visualization muscles working.
I want you to think about the last three months of this year. What do you want to achieve during this time? Who do you need to be to achieve these things?
Now think about what you want your ideal day to look like.
- How do you start your day?
- Do you have any morning routines or rituals?
- How are you showing up for your day – what kind of clothes are you wearing?
To make the visualisation even stronger, think about all the feelings you want to experience…
- How do you want to feel during your ideal day?
- How do you want to feel walking out the door in the morning?
- Or entering a big meeting?
- Taking the kids to school?
- Or being out on a date?
Think about the situations that would come up in your ideal day and really tap into the way you want to feel. The reality is your brain can’t separate what’s real life and what isn’t. So, when you tap into your feelings, it makes it feel real and tricks your brain into believing it is real.
When you visualise what your ideal day looks and feels like, it’s important to include what you’re wearing, creating a style identity. Then, when you bring this style into your daily life, you trigger these feelings and start to become that person!
Next time you’re staring aimlessly at your wardrobe, I want you to think that the way you dress is 100% in your control. This means you can fully express your best and most powerful self through your personal style.
Style is a powerful tool and sometimes it’s not used to its full advantage. It can change how you feel about yourself and heighten your life in so many ways. When you feel good about yourself, it has a ripple effect in other areas of your life.
A true lasting style is one that feels like a second skin that empowers and gives you confidence!
If you’re sick of experiencing daily clothing battles, DM me for a free style consultation. Or better yet, if you’re ready to ditch the pain of endless frustration and negative self-talk once and for all and start loving the person you see in the mirror, my hugely popular ‘Style With Confidence’ program is perfect for you. The program starts on Monday 11th October 2021 and there is only ONE PLACE LEFT, so grab it now while it’s still available at this never to be repeated price! CLICK HERE to secure the final spot.